Individual & Relationship Coach

COACH – NVC Model 
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) model of Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D., is also called Compassionate or Collaborative Communication or The Language of Life. 

NVC Description
The NVC model is a learnable process designed to reliably increase well-being. It involves a quality of connection with self and others that leads to everyone’s needs being respected. An intention to seek mutually satisfying outcomes for all fosters Respect and Safety in relationships…thereby leading to High Motivation, Creativity, and Effectiveness in this Needs-Based Model.

  • “Everything that we do is in the service of a need.”         
  • “ Violence is a tragic expression of unmet needs.”
  • “How can I accentuate the “life” within myself…
    and help make your life more wonderful?”

quotes from Marshall Rosenberg, PhD

Sample Topics

Self – Connection

  • Understanding What Motivates Us to Act Like We Do
  •  Identifying What We Need…and What We Long For

Clarifying Our Core Values

  •  To Live with Integrity and Meaning

Transforming Judgments of Self and Othersto Honesty and Understanding

  • From Stimulus – Reaction…to Stimulus – Response…Finding Our Personal Power

Transforming Anger to Authentic Expressionwith Power and Respect

  • To Clarify and Express “Unmet Needs “- beneath the Anger – To Enhance Connection

Making “Yes or No” Decisionswith Wisdom

  • Transforming “Either/or” Outcomes to “Both/And” Choices…Inviting Inspiration

Coach Programs
Individual and Relationships Programs
* In person
* Phone or Zoom Sessions

Initial Meeting
* Intention and goals are clarified, and the decision to continue is made
* Time-measured coach sessions are established
* “Benchmark” outcomes are established

  • Ongoing coach sessions 
    • Topic issues are explored, using the Needs Based approach, to achieve satisfying results
    • Anticipated “benchmark” outcomes are reviewed
  • Renewal option
    • Continue sessions are mutually agreed upon if needed and desired
    • New or evolved “benchmark” goals are established

Offered in Four Phases – Each Phase includes 6 sessions in 3 months (see Phase One sample below)


Phase One Sample: 3-month program

The Session Process is a presentation, demonstration, experiential practice, and summary reflections

Sessions: 75 – 90 Minutes

  1. Introduction to NVC & Goals Setting
  2. Empathy: Power of Deep: Listening
  3. Honesty/Authentic Sharing without Judgment
  4. NVC Dialogue
  5. Transforming “Triggered” Reactions to Empower Response
  6. Summary and Personal Action Plan

*Electronic Support & Resources offered in between sessions


Phase Two through Four are also 3-month programs, contact Tom for more details.






People learn a Needs Based Management language that fosters communication that identifies core needs, with Safety and Respect. When individuals express themselves without judgment and listen to others with respect, they feel safe to continue to communicate. A connection is made.


Those who exhibit a Communication Flow… a quality of understanding with oneself that leads to personal discovery …or between two or more persons that exhibits Respect and Mutual Consideration. Those involved feel free to express themselves openly and are open to different points of view. This quality of connection leads to collaboration.


When individuals or relationship groups experience the Safety and Respect in Connection, they naturally want to enhance the connection through Collaboration. In relationships, each person seeks mutually satisfying outcomes with everyone’s needs respected, thereby enhancing the relationship.

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